Yes…(cue dramatic music why? I dunno sounds cool)
it is…da da da dummmmm…
What day is it again? I keep thiking its THAT one day but its not –
Let’s just be getting to it shall we?
Today’s Mental Moment….
is about baggage.
Hey you ever been to the airport and seen someone going on vacation and they have too many pieces of luggage?
No guys I am not talking about your wives extra shoe bag, I am talking about they have everything but the kitchen sink packed in 15 pieces of various sized luggage, a set or mismatched whatever and they are all nearly bursting at the seams. Heck who knows maybe the kitchen sink is im there.
Maybe you overhear whoever’s bags they are telling someone else that they are going on a 2 week or gosh maybe even less long vacation and you think wow, that must be their whole closet and dresser drawer and every pair of shoes they own.
Maybe it’s about status, someone traveling with a complete set of luggage in every size shape and form and an entourage to carry it looks important, or maybe they think that if they ike it there, where ever they are going then they can stay, or maybe their luggage is full of books and pictures and mementos to put in their hotel or beach house or island villa to make it seem the same as home, although aren;t vacations to get away from it all?
Maybe they are just being difficult to get some attention. No Guys NOT your wives with the one extra shoe bag.
The amount of baggage some people carry around can get to the point that it impedes the persons enjoyment of the vacation, won’t allow them to live in the moment and there isn;t a lot of room to try new things or new shoes. The person with only a given amount of room to pack and the ability to take only a certain number at a time does not leave much room for a change if their bags are always packed full.
It’s kind of like life. I mean, we all have baggage on this trip, it accumulates from each experience and some people will keep packing and keep packing or adding new bags until they are so caught up in the baggage they have, they forget to live in the present, or they attach more meaning than is reasonable or they just can;t let it go and forgive or it caused them to be mistrustful , or rigid in their thinking.
The older we get the more opportunity we have to collect this baggage no doubt. And certain groups of people have more than others, for example I bet that a large portion of the people who are around my age and are single, have been divorced, probably have children and it is pretty safe to say, except in rare cases, the suitcase for that set of problems right there is most likely the deluxe large biggy bag and some maybe on wheels because of the weight.
Oh and since their divorce maybe they have had more than one girlfriend or boyfriend and even had some more kids , well add bags for all. I do not think you can find many people who are my age who have no baggage, and more than likely they will have more.
The problem then is to occasionally sort and sift through the baggage and get rid of things that are not pertinent to life as you know it, and just taking up room that could be used for new things. If we are hanging on to the same things all the time and never dealing with what is in our bags we have no room for growth and run the risk of being stuck at our last rest stop, or of meeting new people but because we have surrounded ourselves with too much baggage, there is no room or them.
What do you have in that suitcase? The one from it looks like the mid 70’s? That grudge you have against your best friend and you can;t remember why? Or how about right here the guy who pushed you around a bit with a list of all the bruises both physically and mentally he cause d you over 15 years ago?
Hey here is a little secret, adding that to your bag is letting him still have power over you. It’s an excuse to be a victim, or on th reverse side an excuse to become a cold-hearted ball busting bitch and then when some nice guy looks at you cross-eyed you feel completely justified ripping him a new asshole because you have proof, right here, somewhere in your bags… that you have carried around for too long…. let it go.
At the very least we need to weed out the things that are no longer of use to us. If we learn from every experience we have eventually the lesson will be something that is ingrained in us. Get rid of all the old lists and past hurts and well..stuff.
I have kind of learned a lesson in the how much baggage should I take area that I think is a pretty good rule of thumb.
If you can’t carry it yourself, then leave it.
It’s no fair to expect someone new in your life to pay for the past. If there isn;t anyone new in your life, you can still move on because you can carry your own bags. Think of all the new experiences and new people out there if you aren’t bogged down by your baggage.
Let the past be in the past. Make sure your carry on fits the requirements, don’t pack your other suitcases full so you have plenty of room, yes there is ALWAYS room for the extra shoe bag, and let’s go!
To you Mental State, Whatever it May Be,