Are there any Songs about Wednesday?
There are poems I know, that mention Wednesday, one that comes to mind is a nursery rhyme;
Monday’s child is fair of face,
Tuesday’s child is full of Grace,
Wednesday’s child is full of Woe…
Man, Wednesday’s child got a crappy deal if you ask me…. I mean going by the suggestion of character in the poem.
I am a Wednesday’s child. I guess whether I am full of woe depends on how you define or consider woe.
And how much weight you give to a nursery rhyme’s author as to the amount of research done before coming to such a conclusion. I think it just rhymed.
No, that isn’t just because I am a Wednesday Child and refuse to think I am full of woe… more like WOW.. I think that’ what the author meant anyways.
Just my opinion. Cracked as it may be.
Today’s Mental Moment
is about character. Nature, nurture and whether people can change.
Have you ever heard the tale of the frog and the scorpion? It’s an olde but goody and has several variations. I have heard it as the fox and the scorpion, the toad and the scorpion, the duck and the scorpion, the cock and the monkey, the monkey and the ape….
ok I made the last 2 up. I am just playing.
However, the story goes that a scorpion wanted to cross a river and asked a frog to kindly give him a lift. The frog at first said no way I don;t trust you, you will sting me and I will drown. The scorpion tells the frog that doesn;t make sense for if he were to sting the frog, then he too would drown.
The frog thinks about it for a minute and deciding that it made sense and told the scorpion to hop on his back. s they crossed the river the scorpion became ever more agitated and finally a little past the halfway mark, he stung the frog.
The frog was stunned and as he and the scorpion both sank into the water and started to drown, the frog asked the scorpion why he ad done such a thing knowing he would also be killed. And the scorpion replied that he could not help himself, it was his character, the nature of he beast.
In the end the scorpion did exactly what the frog first thought he would do. So why did the frog give in and take him over? The scorpion made a good argument that if in fact he stung the frog, he too would drown, but bottom line is the frog knew what the scorpion was capable of his gut told him to say no, yet he ended up giving the scorpion a chance.
When I first heard this story as a child, I was rooting for the scorpion, or for the frog, depending how you want to see it, all the way across the river. I wanted the scorpion to not sting the frog. I wanted them both to get there safely and everything be fine.
I believe that the character of mankind is good. That left to our own devices and reflection, it is in our nature to do good things, not bad. That we will look out for our fellow-man and support the endeavors of another. That it is programmed in us to help, rather than hurt.
Of course over my lifetime I have met people who do bad things, or who are selfish and uncaring, who will take advantage without blinking an eye. I have been exposed to evil and victim to unscrupulous actions from individuals with little to no remorse.
I have met people who have a history of doing things that I don;t think are nice, yet I do not judge them or turn away from them for the things that happened in the past. I despise stereotypes, and generalizations and think it completely unfair to assume that because they behaved that way before, they will again.
And of course, that makes me the frog, or fox, or monkey, or toad. The one who overlooks the things that point to an outcome that is different then what history shows to be the most likely end.
Humans have something that animals, scorpions and toads and monkeys et all, etc don’t have. The ability to think things through and to change something with a concentrated power of will.
It to me is a difference of whether you live on autopilot, or choose a path of self-awareness and are completely honest with yourself and are accountable for who you are.
There are some things that are the nature of the beast that we can not , no matter how hard or how much we try or how badly we want to will away. But there are others that if we want to not be the beast, we can.
It may not be a question of changing our nature but our behavior.
Even if we change the behavior, that doesn’t mean we don’t still feel drawn to that particular way of being, Take for example and introvert or an extrovert. By nature they are either loners or people oriented, they can condition themselves to be ok in the opposite situation but they may still feel drawn toward their particular nature. They in fact, no matter how they change their behavior will restore themselves through going with their nature.
In the story it is the frog who points out the scorpion’s nature. By countering the frog’s assessment with the practical reasoning, the scorpion does not address his nature, he does not admit that he is programmed to sting anything he comes in contact with, he merely states that it doesn’t make sense because he would die too. He understands that his behavior is not reasonable in this situation.
And of course they have the awareness to have this conversation, or any conversation at all because they are just metaphors for life and people.
I mean c’mon, frogs and scorpions have totally different languages, there is no way they could have had that conversation. 🙄
Another thing to consider is which is stronger? Logic or the nature of things. The frog was right there was no practical sense to the scorpion stinging him. The scorpion just shrugged it off saying basically, it is what it is.
I think the scorpion, with a good 12 step program or good reconditioning (think Pavlov’s dogs) might have overcome the urge to sting. Too bad he drowned, I highly doubt we will find another scorpion that was aware of his nature as much as that one was.
Of course if one were to come to me and say he is that one special scorpion, I would probably believe him.
It’s in my nature.
A little fun moment from the movie Skin Deep. There is some strong language so if you are offended by that sort of thing, you know in advance. Pay attention in the end when the doctor tells him what he will do because it is his nature / character and what his response is. Do you think they are the same just with different words? Or that having been told what his nature is, he tries to change it?
What are the things that you do, the ways you behave, that you feel compelled to, no matter of your desire to change? If you change the way you behave, do you find it uncomfortable as if your nature is pulling you to do something else?
To your Mental State, Whatever it May be…