Lately I have been thinking. Oh no look out!
Well it IS a Mental Moment you think I just pull these out of my?,..,, never mind..,
I have considered going back to the way the Mental Moments used to be when they first started..back in the day. I wonder exactly what day that was …day of the week.
They were pretty easy then, both to post and I ma sure to read as it would center around the video I had picked for the day. I used to think wow – I wish I could come up with something more profound.
Then one day when looking for something on one of the Mental Moments, I noticed that a few were missing the videos as whoever had posted them had done whatever and I thought well that stinks because now there is nothing much there at all.
So I started being a little more profound and wordy. To fill in for the video in case the Moment needed to stand on its own.
Just the other day when I was trying to come up with a good topic for mentaling… something that with both ways is a sometimes small annoyance, – and I came up with one within minutes. Except I can’t do them in minutes anymore.
And I thought wow, remember when they were just a little funny bit – I wish I could go back to that.
Not really – I think the moments have purpose and are pretty good but the ones then were just plain silliness.. maybe a happy medium. Either way, there is good and bad about both and wishing to do it one or the other ways is spinning my wheels, which brings us to
Today’s Mental Moment.
ha ha funny I said spinning my wheels and look we got some place anyways… see how I did that? What? ok well it is something…. ok, ok you think its easy over here on this side of the fence?.. hrmph.
Having lived on both sides of the fence on many different areas of my life I can tell you the grass usually isn’t greener on the other side.
At least not by itself. The grass is greener where ever you spread the most manure, and if you understand that the brass ring to happiness is not something that you can touch or find out there - in the grass, but something that you find within, then it doesn matter what patch of grass you are on, you can make it as green as you want.
Ok, lt;s look at it like this.
The biggest problem The Grass is Always greener way of thinking is that people who are sitting in their little patch of grass and looking over the fence at the lush green grass on the other side, are making their judgement based on one thing.
The color of the grass.
How it looks, how they perceive it in relation to the grass they are on. They assume that because it is greener it is better, and with grass, greener is the ideal so that makes sense.
What they don’t consider because once they decide that it is better than what they have, is how it got that way, and more importantly, how it stays that way. Grass, like most things in life take a little to a lot of effort to grow, depending on the climate, and if you are lucky enough to get a rich green soft mat of grass, there is no resting on your laurels. There is disease to combat. and bugs and it needs the right amount of water and sun, and the grass doesn’t clip itself.
The real kicker of that is, the grass that isn;t as green requires the same things, same hard work and care, maybe different bugs or diseases but for the most part it’s the same. So why is the greener grass always considered to be the key to happiness?
And another little known fact about grass is ..depending on the light and the angle at which you observe it, it can look lighter or darker than at other time from other angles. What this means is, at any given time while you are looking over the fence thinking if you could only get to that side, someone somewhere is looking at your grass and it may even be the folks on the grass you are coveting
My thought on the grass is always greener on the other side? Nah. The grass is greenest when you stop thinking that what someone else has is the key to your happiness.
See, it’s not really about the grass, it;s about the manure.
How many times has someone you know – or even you, been convinced that if they (or you) were rich you’d finally be happy? Or that if you had a boyfriend or girlfriend - or marriage or whatever .. or maybe you are in an unhappy relationship and it seems like your single friends are living the good life whooping it up, not having to answer to anyone…
I don;t know if this is something that can just be believed - as in take my word for it or if it is one of those gee wow now I get it moments that you learn by actually living on both sides of the fence and realizing its all the same grass,different climate or growing season maybe – but it’s still about what you do with it.
The grass that is the best is the grass you are working with. The deciding factor to how green it is and how happy it makes you, is you.
So next time you look over the fence and see the green grass and think If only you had that, try changing the type of manure you are using. If you can learn to work with whatever patch of grass you are on by changing something that you have control over – like the manure, then you can be happy anywhere with anything.
A good thick layer of manure works wonders and you should never discount or take it for granted.
To Your Mental State, Whatever it may be,