Yes dear readers it is that day we like almost more than any other in the week..work week sorry.
The day preceding THE DAY, and following Hump Day.
Thursdays are usually pretty good days. Mostly because we are thinking about getting through them so that we can get through Friday and on to the weekend which for those that have a regular 5 day work week M – F mans some rest and relaxation. Unless you have kids. Then it usually means a bunch of activities and sports events. But that is still better than work.
And I don’t do Mental Moments on the weekend. That is not to say I look forward to that. Usual,y it doesn’t really occur to me and I have actually thought once or twice, heck maybe even three times about adding weekend Mental Moments.
Not this week though. This week has been tough.
I have a Mental Moment that is particularly important, to me , that I convey it correctly and include all the valid points because it’s about something that I feel very strongly about as a way to open up communication and allow people to be able to be more understanding towards others.
That is all I will say about it or I would be writing it here and then.. I would really be confused. Its been a tough week of that kind of thing for me. Confusion and not being able to make everything fall into place so that the planets are aligned and life is comfortable. Disappointment and …
It’s just a little off and sometimes when that happens, and depending on whether I have to fall back on pharmaceutical substances which make me a bit daft and goofy …and redundant apparently, I can not get the words to fall into place in the way I feel they need t be. Sometimes I can;t find the words. I may be in the middle of a thought, on the phone, in person, email or just writing and know exactly what word I want but, I can;t find it. Or even spell it though I can see it, what it looks like. It’s akin to having it on the tip of your tongue.
I know that seems weird, but if you have ever lost a word or two I bet you know what I mean. So after struggling all afternoon yesterday, and a good portion of today to get it right. After my frustration level got to the point that I was like to snap someone’s head off for breathing the wrong way , I just had to put it away for a while and here we are somewhere totally different.
Today’s Mental Moment
is about the frustrations in life.
Not things we can change, but the things that we may not have any bit of control over, at least for the time being.
Have you ever been in a situation where you could not complete a task to yours or someone you are doing it for’s specifications, or time limits and no matter which way you approach it, you can not find a way to get it done or to make your point or to … get a grip and have a handle on anything?
There are different levels of control that people assert over their lives and actions and even over the lives of others. Whether they should or not.
People who are overly controlling probably deal with a bunch of frustration on a daily basis because they rely on others bending to their will to feel the security of being in control of things and on top of it all. I would imagine that trying to control others and they won;t listen, or they get a great idea and decide to try t their own way, would have the overly controlling person wound tighter than a ..something wound tight, really tight.
This causes tension which then snowballs into agitation and anger and yea it can get out of hand pretty quick. All over someone not listening and insisting that maybe they are able to do it themselves without the control and direction, or orders of another.
A good example, but not an exemplary character is an abuser. As in spousal abuse, child abuse, elderly abuse, any kind of weeny head that thinks they will appear greater than… by controlling and oppressing another’s will.
If you ever had the ..privilege of being the oppressed, and you decided that you had enough and started rebelling and not letting the abuser have control, thereby taking away their power and feelings that the world was in order, once you realize what is going on it can be quite a show to watch the unraveling.
Sometimes, tempting to make it happen faster, just saying.
I see the attraction but from experience I can tell you, as satisfying as it may be for the moment, it isn;t worth a black eye or a split lip.
And I was just using this as an example of extremes so that you could easily ascertain the frustration I speak of that we are trying to deal with. I got a little carried away at the thought but I still stand by it not being worth it if it means physical harm.
That is much greater than the frustration I am dealing with although in the middle, it may seem just as tough to cope. I am not a control freak. I do like things a certain way but I am easy to adapt and do not feel out of control unless something is sprung on me at the last minute and I feel trapped or like I was tricked. That is another good example of frustration that we just at that moment can not do anything about.
One thing that does frustrate me is not being able to organize my thoughts, my brain, my emotions and my life as I feel I should be able to do. Or even to the level I am normally used to performing at. Like finding words. I never lose words. Or I never used to. lately this particular frustration has brought me near to tears. And it is a little bit frightening in that , you wonder if it is a sign. I wonder.
SO are you all with me on the feeling? helpless, frustrated, tightly wound and possibly agitated to the point that it spills over to every other area of our lives and even then requires pharmaceutical intervention if you are the possessor of such help and I am here to tell you that has a set of frustrations all its own so … Anxiety, confusion/
Once you get to the wall where there is nothing you can do, once you start feeling the anxiety, and want to bang your head on a wall, and you are tightly wound so much that you snap at everyone and your normal easy going nature is nowhere to be found, probably out having a beer with your words.. so add that , not being invited, it can really start affecting every area of your life.
What do we do to get past it. My favorite advice? Unsolicited and slightly cracked of course.
Put it in a bubble, and let it go. Yes, I mean make it a physical action where you form a bubble, imagine your things you can do nothing about, frustrations and anxieties into that bubble and
Let. It. Go.
Yoga… and laughter helps a lot too..
Close your eyes, relax, take a nice deep breath and just let go.
I think that I heard that on DHarma and Greg.. remember that show? ONe of my very favorites. I found an episode called Yoga and Boo Boo.. its a long one but well worth it, and part one is there too afterwards if you are interested. I feel better. But if you are in a hurry and only want the normal 3 ish minute video, start around 7 mins. til the end. Dharma sends a mob snitch to her in laws on accident, Greg is trying to loosen up and live in the moment and has pulled his groin so is home from work……
TO Your Mental State, Whatever it may Be.