How’s that for a play on words? I was thinking Bipolar Bites, because well it does sometimes but I also am going to give it to you in little chunks, like a bite.
Or by giving good information I will help take a Bite out of Bipolar, or at least the stigma and misunderstanding surrounding it. Maybe there will be less shame attached to something that should never have been about shame in the first place.
A byte is a digital measurement where typically there are 8 Bits in a Byte, sometimes more, depending on how the measurement is being made.
Now, since I want to do one bit at a time, I guess we could call it Bipolar Bits.. Or I could play around with the 8 bit thing.. or I could just say it’s Bipolar Bytes - because well, it does sometimes and that’s that. I will have to think about it for awhile, I am sure it will develop itself along the way.
But whatever, let’s move on or we will be here all day.
I am aware that there is an ongoing debate about the terminology of either being or having bipolar disorder. Any disorder actually. So it kind of covers the spectrum of things that people have but aren’t…
I have Bipolar Disorder
Which is it?
Let me ask you this:
DO you see me any differently then you normally do depending on the way I say it?
The outcry about the terminology to me is bordering on a matter of PC (political correctness, a topic I oh so love )
To a point, I do understand THE POINT of the argument. I have bipolar disorder but it does not define me but if you say it that way YOU ARE BIPOLAR, then you are discounting all the other things I am. Or at least it may seem that way.
It’s labeling. It’s not fair. And when you have bipolar disorder (or whatever other disorder, insert here) and are so much more than the sum of its parts, you don’t want all the other parts to be discounted in the big picture of you.
But, ( like a big BUTT)… is biting someone’s head off about their verbage really going to change things? And is it really all that wrong to refer to someone as bipolar, and lastly, doesn;t it fit in with the way we talk about things and how we refer to people in all other kinds of matters?
Let’s look at an example:
How are you today?
I am happy
Person C to Person A
How is Person B
Oh, person B is happy.
Simple, elementary example right there I know, but there was no has, had, haves in it. Person A did not say to Person C oh Person B HAS HAPPINESS…. Person B IS happy.
That’s how we speak, that’s how we say it, not the definition of the whole of it.
I understand the fight to have the proper terminology used and I understand that the idea is that if people refer to it correctly, they will ..well refer to it correctly.
Bullshit is what I think, How about that?
Is that a direct contradiction to my rant about the proper use of Mental Health / Mental Illness during Mental Health Awareness Month? Well yes.. but I am Bipolar I can do that, it is in a way the nature of the beast, right?
That was an apple, this is an orange. A mission versus a step. They are different.
People will think what they want to think unless they are shown something different. If JoeBilly Bob over there thinks that having Bipolar Disorder, or being bipolar makes you a worthless piece of poo, not worth his ever-loving back woods ignorant attitude oh so precious consideration, then it doesn’t matter how you say it or make him say it.
What if backwoods ignorant JoeBilly Bob and Bipolar Betty ran into each other in a book store?
BB: I didn’t know you could read
JBB: I didn’t know they let you out unattended.
BB: Wanna get some coffee?
Well what will come of that my friends is that JoeBilly Bob will discover what a wonderful and special person Bipolar Betty is and how bipolar is only a part of it, and Bipolar Betty will discover that JoeBilly Bob, backwoods ignorant as he seemed, has a PH.D in philosophy and graduated from Harvard Summa Cum Laude or whatever it is and they will get married and live happily ve after…but that;s a story for another day. The point is they showed each other their concepts were wrong and then INSPIRED each other to change the way they viewed the world. Get it?
I don’t give a monkey’s butt how you say it, I am bipolar, I have bipolar, whatever, The bottom line is it is part of who I am, only a part and I am the one that has to know that and be comfortable with it. This applies to everything in life I think, if the words people use to define you are not how you see yourself, is it about the way they say it, or the way you see it?
Insisting someone refer to you a certain way – is trying to control them, the way they feel and see and understand the world, when if you are ok with who you are and have a good understanding of what you have and what defines you, or in a nutshell, worry about your own feelings thoughts and views of the world, you will find that it doesn;t make a difference what they say or how they say it.
I know who and what I am and how I got this way (ok… mostly ) I was somebody with hopes and dreams and messed up emotional shit way before I ever got that definition attached to my person.
I am going to throw this out there to for consideration. Bipolar affects so many areas of my life that if it was not a part of me… well, it is not the entirety of who I am but it most certainly has a big part in the defining of me.
Let’s take the infamous statement of philosopher Rene Descartes;
I think, therefore I am
Without going into the intricacies of the problematic nature of that statement,( maybe another day). let’s use different language.
I have bipolar disorder, therefore I am bipolar…
I am also smart, funny, pretty, good enough, witty, happy, joyful, sad, lovely, loving, reckless, fun, messy, strange, hungry as heck at the moment and gosh darn it… should I go on?
The only time I ever got bent by someone saying – Lizzie is Bipolar was when I myself was afraid that it was all that defined me. I was trying to convince myself, as much as anyone, when I insisted on the “proper” diction
Call it, whatever you want because I am the one who has to know, and ones that matter know that Bipolar Disorder is only a small – ok maybe big,- part of who I am but it is not WHO I AM in my entirety and they typically will say; my bipolar friend ..or they may say Lizzie has bipolar. However they say it is fine with me.
Say what you want, but…
Don’t mistreat me (or those that have any condition or difference or disorder or…) or judge me or discount me because of the fact that bipolar is a factor in my life. Then I will take someone to task.
Because no matter how you want to twist the language, adjective ,verb, noun… first and foremost I am human, we all are. That’s the condition we all have. I wouldn’t be bipolar – have bipolar, if I wasn’t human.
That, my friends is what really and truly defines us all.
We all have the Human Condition, therefore,
We are Human.
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- Sometimes You’ve Just Got To Do It Yourself: Bipolar Infographic (candidaabrahamson.wordpress.com)
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